Dear Airforce Girl.
My girl, my girl, you are going to have to love you first! You are going to have to tell yourself that you deserve all things GOOD. I am going to teach you a wonderful exercise that I was taught in a seminar a while ago and I still do it to this day. But before I do that, I really need you to understand that you matter more than anything else.
When good things come to us and we aren’t ready or accepting, we have a way of messing them up because we think we only deserve crappy treatment. This is what you are going through at the moment; your ex was an idiot and still seems to be. He is a cheater, he is abusive and not respectful to the women he is in a relationship with â so why bother about this ugly ghost of your past? LET HIM GO! You may say to me: “Rosie, I have,” and I am saying you havenât because you brought this fool into this new relationship and he is still messing you up.
You need individual counselling; then, when you get to a stable place of acceptance, then you and your boyfriend should have couplesâ counselling. I feel as though you have a good and steady guy, someone who will work with you in order for you to grow to the next level. Sit down and explain your demons; let him know that you are going to look into helping yourself and hopefully he can support you through it.
Now, I need you to say this to yourself every day for the next 21 days â seven times in a row: “I deserve only the best that this life has to offer me, nothing else will do.â Set it on your phone to come up daily and keep saying it. There is something to be said about putting positive affirmations into the universe. I have my own affirmations and I’ve been doing this every day (even when I am down) and I have to say I see the world from a different perspective. So, I know you will get the help that you need and make a successful go with this relationship, leaving the toxic ghost of the past way behind you. Continued success!
Send questions to Rosie at: [email protected] or
P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.