I don’t want to share my man

Hey Rosie,

I am a 21-year-old mother of a three-year-old and pregnant at the moment for a 32-year-old guy who has a girlfriend.

I met this guy in February and our love just escalated in no time. I got pregnant in March with his first child. His girlfriend was pregnant once and had an abortion because she thinks he is not responsible enough to have a child. They’ve been together for three years and all I get is promises every day that he is going to leave her, so he can be with me alone. When he is not working, he is at my house and he even sleeps here every night. He said that the girl doesn’t want to let go because of the good treatment she is getting, but I don’t want to share him, so I think I will have to let him go, as much as I’m in love with him and I know that he loves me.

I think that behind my back he is telling her another story, but I know at times he will tell her to leave and she refuses to. Being with the both of us is messing up our relationship, because I don’t like sharing my man. I want to know if I should stay with him, or just have this child, then forget him.

Confused

Dear Confused,

Yes, I can see why you would be confused so much is going on in your world and I do feel for you and the predicament that you are in. 

I know you are a sensible girl and you can see why this love triangle is not working out in your favour.  When a man is caught between two women his loyalties become very shaky and fuzzy.  Do you really need that kind of drama in your life?

Look, what you should focus on is you and your children.  Also the best would be if you and the father can come to terms and co-parent to the best terms for your children’s sake. 

Yes, you love him… yes, you don’t want to share him… yes, he whispers sweet nothings to you when you are alone together.  But guess what?  He is not yours … you have a choice to make and I want you to know you are stronger than you know.

All the best,

Rosie 

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