I moved to another state with my boyfriend; now I am ridiculously homesick

Hey Rosie,

I am so stressed out! I just moved to another state where I don’t know anyone else. I did this because my boyfriend said that this would be a good start for both of us. The problem is that he knows many people, because this is where he grew up. I am so homesick it’s ridiculous. I’ve been here three months, can’t find a job, not making any new friends and my boyfriend has fallen into his old groove with his family and friends and thinks that I am being fussy. My mom keeps saying come home! I think she may be right. I am 28 and left a decent job back home. HELP!

Dear Help,

I think you jumped in without doing your research first. Was this state a place that had great employment to begin with? Did you set up interviews beforehand? How was your relationship with his people before going there? I think you are naturally a very selective person and may not have thought this through.

I understand your mother’s concerns, but you have to make this decision yourself. How about volunteering in your field? Or at the library, hospital or school? That is a very easy way to network, for people to see your work ethic etc.

The bottom line: is this relationship worth all of this anxiety? Are you willing to make a 100 per cent go of it? Are you willing to maybe reach out a bit more to his family and friends? Look at your life and see what role you play in your unhappiness. I wish you the best.Rosie

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