Uncomfortable with introducing my white boyfriend to my family

I have been in an interracial relationship for the last three months and everything is great! Now we are thinking that we should meet each other’s families. Rosie, I am uncomfortable. My family likes to make bad jokes about EVERYTHING and race is one of them. I don’t want them to embarrass me. I warned him and he said that he doesn’t care, but I do; they aren’t racist, they are just TACKY! I am black and he is white. We have something special and I am worried it can go to pieces.

Help Me Please

Dear Help Me Please,

Now this is different! I can understand your anxiety about your boyfriend meeting your family. I bet you they know that this will get under your skin, so they do this on purpose to get a rise out of you.

Look, my answer is going to be short and sweet. If you are happy and want this relationship to work, you will have to develop thick skin and stand up for your relationship. You are going to get the heat from many sides potentially: your family, his family, strangers and even friends. However, if you take your stand early and in a firm manner, you can overcome a lot of the negative push back.

Do not waste your time on what people think you should do. Do what’s right for you and your relationship. Always make sure you are both on the same page and stand together to face your problems head on. If you can do this, there isn’t much that can come between you – even your politically incorrect family. Rock steady, my friend, and good luck!

Rosie

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