I can’t prove it, but I know my man is cheating!!

Hey Rosie,

I know my man is cheating. I can’t prove it, but I know. He locks his phone and wouldn’t share his pass code with me. When I step into the room he stops texting and turns off the phone. He would never take a call when we are together. His friends know the drill too because they are really cagey when they are around me. I asked him why are they all so shady? He said it’s me who thinks everyone is up to something. Rosie, I even had a male co-worker follow my man one day when he was out with some friends.{{more}} But he was only at a bar with his friends and his sister. Is it me, Rosie? Am I the one with the issues, as he likes to say?

Losing my mind

Hello Losing my mind,

Let me give you a gentle news flash – yes, you have gone over the edge here! Oh my goodness, I am surprised that you guys are still together.

This problem here lies with you. Look, if your boyfriend is cheating or not (I think you scare him, to be truthful) is one thing. But to have him followed and demanding his pass code? Now that is stalking! You are going to have to come to grips with the fact that the only person you can control is you and right now you are out of control.

Yes, people do cheat, but guess what, you can leave. There is no need to become worked up if you think you can do better or you are being wronged. But to put someone else through these antics lets me know that maybe you should look inwardly and see if this is about you being hurt before. Maybe some counselling to take the weight off your chest might help? Try it. I don’t know about your boyfriend, but this is not a healthy relationship at the moment and maybe you guys should take a break until you figure out why this causes you so much anxiety.

All the best,

Rosie

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