My brother is cheating on my best friend! Do I tell her?

Hey Rosie,

My brother is dating my best friend. We have all been friends since we were kids. Our parents are also very close. My brother is three years older than us. We are seniors in college and we are away for school, so we come home on holidays etc. I found out that my brother is cheating with a girl at his job. I’m so upset with him, I can’t even look at him. Our families all think that he and my Bff are going to get engaged when she graduates from school (he has even been ring shopping).{{more}}

But now I know he’s a cheater. No one else knows, Rosie ! I don’t think this is right. Should I tell my Bff or my mom? Please help!

Driving Me Crazy!

Dear Driving Me Crazy,

Yes, this is a tough spot to be put in. Wow, to be the keeper of that secret isn’t a good feeling. Did you tell him how you felt? You didn’t mention that. Sometimes it’s good for them to know how disappointed you are as well.

My advice is very simple, tell your mother. If you have a good relationship and your mother makes solid decisions, tell her and let her deal with him.

She can make him come clean. She can call him out for his poor choices. She can also lay it on the line about him staying with his girlfriend or maybe he’s not ready for this type of upcoming commitment, so therefore he can do the right thing and set her free. Release your burden to your mom, not your best friend. Do not become stuck in the middle of this drama. Again, if you have an opportunity to speak to your brother you should honestly express your opinion regarding his poor choices.

I wish you all the best!

Rosie