My friends are being petty because of my boyfriend

Hey Rosie,

I am having some issues with my group of friends; we are all in our mid to late 20s. They are saying that since I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for these last four months, I’ve neglected them. They say I take forever to answer their texts; that when we do get together, all I ever do is talk about him and when we are out I am either face timing him, or leaving early because I have something to do with him.{{more}}

Rosie, I was single for a while. My girls had their own relationships, engagements and one is even getting married now. I have ALWAYS been supportive. I feel as though they are being petty because I want to spend time with my man. I understand what they are saying, but why can’t they just be happy for me? I went through this with all of them and I think this attitude I am getting from them isn’t right. Should I confront them? Give them the cold shoulder? Or just bite my tongue?

Tired of the attitudes

Hello Tired of the attitudes,

Well, this made me smile a bit. What you are going through is so normal for a young woman. It would seem that you’ve been hit with the love stick and you want to enjoy your one-to-one time with your boo. However, now that you are in a new set-up, I think your lack of “availability” is really getting to your crew.

Confronting and giving them the cold shoulder really isn’t necessary. Your friends are also in relationships; it’s just that they are not as new as yours. Sometimes people can forget how young love like this can feel. However, to be fair, not returning texts in a timely manner, face timing with your boyfriend when you are hanging out with your girls really is not cool. When you are hanging with your friends, you are with them. Remember these friendships are for the long haul, so be careful how you manage them.

You can casually tell them that you have also travelled the same road with them on many occasions and you hope that they can understand where you are now in your new relationship. It is how you say it as well, giving them attitude for attitude will not go over well (as you already know), so tread carefully. If this continues to happen, then you may want to sit down with all of them and everybody can hash it out respectfully. I just don’t think it is as serious as everyone is saying. We just have to be respectful how we interact with each other from time to time. Good luck with all of your relationships!

Rosie

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