My husband says he’s bored with me and wants to take a break!

Hi Rosie,

I am so devastated; my husband just told me that I don’t satisfy him sexually any more. Rosie, I couldn’t believe it! We have had such a great relationship (or so I thought), great jobs, wonderful children, home etc. But now he’s saying that he’s bored and thinks we should take a break! Rosie, what does he mean a break? I feel betrayed. I asked him who the woman was and he said there is no woman!{{more}} He just needs some space to sort out this problem between us. Rosie shouldn’t I be involved in this decision? He’s 52 and I’m 50. What is going on here? Is this his mid-life crisis?

Help Me!

Dear Help Me,

Now this one has come out of left field it seems, unless you weren’t picking up the warning signs!

Did you not notice that he was not as interested in having a sexual relationship with you as before? I can’t believe that this just happened overnight. You have to be honest with yourself first and I would also suggest that you seek some counselling as well. Taking care of your emotional needs should be a top priority; this is a very trying period you are going through and having a plan is very important.

Finally, I do think your husband is going through a mid-life crisis. Some men have affairs, buy fancy cars, start dressing differently, change their circle of friends and the list goes on. If one or more of these things apply to him, then I think he has his own internal struggle going on.

I really don’t think it’s about the sex, to be truthful, but he is at a crossroads (which may be temporary); he is conflicted and confused. Let him know you are willing to work with him to get through this difficult patch.

Best of luck,

Rosie