Hi Rosie,

I need some professional advice. I have a great boyfriend; he rescued me from a “bad” relationship over a year ago. I am the kind of person who likes to address her problems head-on, but every time we get into an argument, it doesn’t matter if I am right or wrong…I ALWAYS have to be the bigger person, or else we would just go on for days not speaking. I personally believe communication is key to a relationshsip, but do I always have to be the one instigating that communication? A real man knows when he is wrong, acknowledges it and tries to make it right.{{more}}

Frustrated!

Hi Frustrated,

I can relate with your dilemma; it is truly frustrating to always be the one who has to apologize or be the “BIGGER ” person, even if you are clearly in the right.

However, guess what? This is a small piece of the whole relationship picture. His unwillingness to admit fault might be his major flaw and could be one that can be worked on over time. He may also say that you have major flaws that work his last nerve as well. But the kicker is to weigh out the whole picture. Is he kind, caring, decent, respectful, willing to work with you towards common goals, non-violent etc? You see where I’m going with this? No one is perfect.

However, if he does have many other negative attributes, it’s time for you to sit down and reevaluate your relationship. Your gut never steers you in the wrong direction, so think before you jump.

Rosie

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