I left my bf for someone I thought loved me back

Hey Rosie,

I’ve been reading your columns and I am very impressed with your advice. I am an 18-year-old girl who is very confused. I had this boyfriend whom I love and we both want to have a life in the future, but I decided to put it on hold until we were a little older. Now there is a boy who I am crazy about and he made the first move, so I thought he felt the same. But I found out from one of my friends that he told her that I liked him and we were just loose friends and nothing more.{{more}}

Rosie, it hurts me because I left my boyfriend for him and almost had intercourse with him. My friend, up to this point, does not want to tell me this, because she thinks it would have hurt my feelings (she told another friend and that friend told me). This friend does not want me to tell this boy anything, because she thinks the boy will suspect something. I don’t know what to do. I am very confused.  

Stressed Out 

Dear Stressed Out,

Ok, I’m confused. I was with you regarding the first boyfriend and waiting (a great idea). But then I got thrown off with the deception and the ‘he said she said’ bit, along with the friend acting as a go-between. 

Let’s keep this one really simple; you dropped the bone for the shadow. You had a crush or you were smitten by this second young man, but he wasn’t who he appeared to be. These things happen, my dear, that is why I encourage young people like yourself to go out and date different people and get to know them without the heavy commitment, instead of locking yourself into a long-term relationship at this very young age.

Date, be safe, be smart, have fun, further your education, travel, see the world. Don’t assume the drama and heartache of a long-term relationship; believe me, there is a lot of time to get caught up in trying to work out relationship issues.

Finally, another two pieces of advice: all that glitters isn’t gold – so, if the face is pretty, it doesn’t mean it’s a face that’s looking for a long-term relationship. Also do not include too many “friends in your business.” As you get older you will realize that not every “friend” has your best interest at heart. So, walk away and know that you have just experienced a life lesson for the future.

Rosie 

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