Should I take back my ex?

Hey Rosie,

I have broken up with my baby’s father for about 18 months now. At first it was hard, because I thought we would have been together for life. But he developed some wandering eyes and things went south in our relationship. Now time has past and we have come to a decent place that we can talk about our two-year-old daughter and what she needs. I’ve started dating someone else on an occasional basis (nothing serious) and my career is doing well.{{more}} Now I see my ex is trying to get back in my good graces and says he wants his family back and he misses me. Rosie, I can’t believe that I am even considering his proposal. What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

I can see how this would make you very confused. Especially after you’ve come to a place of resolution regarding your relationship with your ex. But please know this is very normal to revisit the possibilities of restarting your relationship.

I have a few questions for you: Do you still love him? Do you want to work this out with him? Is he a good person? Can you forgive him for hurting you? Do you want a fresh start? These are a few of the questions you should ask yourself. Why take yourself through something that may be totally unnecessary to begin with? Be real with yourself… don’t make compromises, be true to yourself about what you really want in your life.

So, at the end of the day, this is your call. You both can continue being fantastic co-parents to your daughter; then you can decide if you want to make a go of this relationship again. You are an intelligent young lady; you will know what’s best.

Good luck,

Rosie

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