My husband’s inconsistency in calling hurts our kids

Hey Rosie,

My husband left me with two children under 12, one of whom is physically handicapped. The children miss him very much and he is inconsistent with calling them. He lives about 15 mins away and it’s like pulling teeth for him to do right by them.{{more}}Frankly, I don’t care if he comes back, but he is hurting them so badly and now I’m alone to pick up the pieces. I want to move out of state and start afresh, but people are telling me to think of the children. What should I do?

Alone

Dear Alone,

My heart really goes out to you. You sound very tired and your hands are full. My words of encouragement to you are to keep the faith and fight fair; you will get through this.

Your husband is truly doing a disservice to his children. I don’t know what the issues are between the two of you (I can tell it must have been deep), but essentially abandoning your kids, there’s no excuse. I would try and have a rational and calm conversation with him about you moving; if it seems as though it’s falling on deaf ears, then seek legal counsel about moving on and also having the children financially accounted for – do what’s best for you and your family.

You have to make sure that your peace of mind is factored in, otherwise you are no good to anyone. I wish you strength and wisdom.

Rosie

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