My baby daddy has another baby mommy who lives with him

Hey Rosie,

I am 17 years of age and have a son who is going to be three years old soon. I am still with his father, who has another son and has the other baby mommy living with him. Yet, he is telling me they’re not together. I get him whenever I want and I go at his place when she is there and she does not say anything. He tells me that she is still there because his mother wants her for him, but it’s me that he wants. We spend quality time every day and our relationship goes like an ordinary one, but I still think that he is with the both of us. The thing that puzzles me is that I’ve cheated on him, yet we’re still together and this is the reason he gives to me to believe that they’re not together, because if they were together he would have left me a long time ago.{{more}} I love him like crazy and don’t think I can ever let him go. That’s why I want to know whether or not to believe he is cheating and what step should I take now before it’s much too late and I kill him.

Baby Mother

Hello Baby Mother,

Ok, right out the gate let us never make any mention again about killing someone. This is NEVER an option or thought, okay? We have to be in control of our actions at all times and no situation should ever provoke you to the point that you can compromise your common sense.

Now, down to this very obvious and yes it is an obvious love triangle. Your boyfriend has a very cushy set-up here I see. He is using the excuse about his mother liking this young lady for him etc. Meanwhile, the young lady seems very submissive and good with her current situation too. She doesn’t seem too bothered by your presence because someone is reassuring her that she is in a safe position.

Then we have you; you are caught up in this tangled mess and of course, you are emotionally connected because of your child too. Listen, I understand how you feel; it is hard to step back and make some hard choices in your very young life. This is where you need the guidance of some very clear minded adults to help you. Also, you have to be willing to hear them too. Ask yourself if this is what you want in 8-10 years from now? Do you want to always wonder whom does he love or whom is he with? My thought is it’s time for you to take care of your future and that of your son. You need to secure your education, your career and your life in general; it isn’t too late.

Give yourself a break for a while and watch this picture unfold. I promise you when you step away things ALWAYS become clearer. Lastly, love yourself more than this; you are worth so much more than this drama.

Rosie

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