Should I try my luck with a young man of a different race?

Hey Rosie,

I think that I can relate to the late Etta James when she sang the song “At Last,” because the light of love has shone on me. I met a Lithuanian young man who lives in England through my cousin. I was instantly attracted to his physical features; we started talking, via Skype almost every night for the past four months. He has proven to be very educated, ambitious and caring. He has expressed his feelings towards me and I am planning to visit him in the summer.{{more}}

But I have found myself in a tight spot now, because in February, I began dating a friend of mine, whom I have liked since the day we met. He is very charming, but his emotions are only at the surface; a very selfish person who likes to use me to fulfill his sexual desires. I think that there is no future with us, because there is no solid foundation in our relationship. Honestly, I want to try my luck with my new found love, because my current partner is very promiscuous and he is bound to cheat on me. Would I be a prejudiced person if I move on with the new guy?

Move On

Dear Move On,

Girl, yes, please…move on and explore the possibilities that life has to offer you. Many times we already know that answer to a question, but we are afraid to take that leap of faith. This situation to me doesn’t have a thing to do with the colour of someone’s skin, but the content of their heart and spirit.

You do realize that you answered yourself in this letter by saying “he is a very selfish person who likes to use me to fulfill his sexual desires. I think that there is no future with us, because there is no solid foundation in our relationship.” These are your words and how YOU feel; always go with what you feel and what you know to be true. If you are looking for a stable, long-term and rewarding relationship, then you have to ask yourself which one do I think would give me these things?

Now, let’s be clear; let’s say that you go and you meet this young man and he ends up being a fraud; do not stay because you feel ashamed. You can walk away as well. This life is filled with options and many choices; no one has to stay in a toxic situation, and you can do what is best for you.

So, I wish you the best with whatever you choose to do. Always think about your safety first and make sure you have a great support system in place. It is good to have a sounding board and back-up to help you if you hit a wall or struggle. I wish you all the best.

Rosie

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