My fiancé’s ex-girlfriend sent him pictures of her vagina!!

Hey Rosie,

I am to be married in a few months. My fiancé and I are living together and have a really great relationship. We usually have each other’s phones, playing games and such. He has an older child with this woman who has since gotten married and had two other children. I had his phone in the week and saw that she sent him three pictures of her vagina with her legs wide open and a note under saying thats before she shaved.{{more}} I asked him why is she sending him those pictures? At first, he said its a long story, then after that, he said they still flirt. I told him thats not flirting, he said everyone sees it differently and named quite a few of his friends who also send him pictures of their private parts. Rosie, I want to know is this really flirting? Also why would a married woman who professes to be so happy send those pictures to a man?

Feeling betrayed

Dear Feeling Betrayed,

I wish you could see my face right now! I wish you could see how I am fighting to close my mouth because I am in so much in SHOCK it’s not funny! Look, I can only speak for me at this very moment; nothing about this is NORMAL! In fact it’s down right vulgar! I am not a prude by any means, but when a woman lowers herself to that level it speaks a lot to her character. Wow!

Ok let me gather myself from that rant. This is way past flirting; this opens the door to major infidelity in the flesh. Is this how you want to start off your union with this hanging over your head? Also seeing that your fiancé doesn’t see a problem with this fiasco causes me even more concern. I am as always, going to suggest counseling for yourself first, I don’t know if he is ready to admit that HE has a major problem too, because he is indulging in this nonsense as well!

So I put this back on you. What are you going to do? Is this a pill that you are willing to swallow and call it a day? Can you look the other way every time you see his child’s mother in social settings? Can you go to counseling by yourself and then forgive him freely and move on? If the answer is “no” to any of these questions then you must sit down and think if this next big step is worth it. Marriage can be wonderful (hard work, but very rewarding), you have to decide if this is acceptable to you. Another question, would he forgive you as easily if you were doing this foolishness and sending sexy pictures to your EX? By the way, I hope you have never done this either.

At the end of the day, I can only share my opinion, you are the one who has to decide what you are going to do. Just know this is not normal behavior, all the best at this cross road in your relationship.

Rosie

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