Should I dump my bf before or after his birthday?

Hey Rosie,

My question is simple. I am pretty much done with my boyfriend of six years and I am going to break up with him. Frankly, I’ve outgrown him. We went to college together, finished school and then got great careers. Problem is, instead of being a mature 25-year-old man, he still has a lot of childish and selfish ways.{{more}} I am focused on going back to grad school and building a serious future. Meanwhile, he’s bar hopping, playing video games and never has time for me or to treat me right. So, I’m pretty much done, as I mentioned in the beginning. Question is his birthday is in two weeks. Should I do it now over the holidays, or just wait until after? He has no idea this is coming. I don’t want to spoil his big day. Bottom line, I’m out.

It’s Over

Hello It’s Over,

Well, wow! You are no joke and I have to say you have clearly stated why you are finished. However, you never mentioned your attempts to work it out, but I suspect there’s more to this than meets the eye.

Ok, so your question is “when,” not “if” to break up. So, I put this back on you. This is totally your call; you seem totally in control of this situation, so I say you are the best person to decide. If you think telling him now would be devastating to him, then I guess you can be decent and tell him in a polite and clear fashion a little after his birthday.

A little tip of the day: some guys are not always going to be on your level. Sometimes it’s good to grow together, have fun, smell the roses and be a bit more tolerant. You are still very young and learning each other’s quirks will help you evolve into even more rounded individuals. I wish you the best with all of your goals in the future, including relationships.

Rosie

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