Should I dump my bf before or after his birthday?
My question is simple. I am pretty much done with my boyfriend of six years and I am going to break up with him. Frankly, Iâve outgrown him. We went to college together, finished school and then got great careers. Problem is, instead of being a mature 25-year-old man, he still has a lot of childish and selfish ways.{{more}} I am focused on going back to grad school and building a serious future. Meanwhile, heâs bar hopping, playing video games and never has time for me or to treat me right. So, Iâm pretty much done, as I mentioned in the beginning. Question is his birthday is in two weeks. Should I do it now over the holidays, or just wait until after? He has no idea this is coming. I donât want to spoil his big day. Bottom line, Iâm out.
Itâs Over
Hello Itâs Over,
Well, wow! You are no joke and I have to say you have clearly stated why you are finished. However, you never mentioned your attempts to work it out, but I suspect thereâs more to this than meets the eye.
Ok, so your question is “when,â not “ifâ to break up. So, I put this back on you. This is totally your call; you seem totally in control of this situation, so I say you are the best person to decide. If you think telling him now would be devastating to him, then I guess you can be decent and tell him in a polite and clear fashion a little after his birthday.
A little tip of the day: some guys are not always going to be on your level. Sometimes itâs good to grow together, have fun, smell the roses and be a bit more tolerant. You are still very young and learning each otherâs quirks will help you evolve into even more rounded individuals. I wish you the best with all of your goals in the future, including relationships.
Rosie
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