I love my gf, but I hate the way she treats me at times

Hey Rosie,

My problem is that I think that my girl takes me for granted.

We have a decent relationship, but I have to say that she can be very disrespectful to me in front of our friends and our families. Rosie, we both are working, making decent money, finished school and I am looking to take that next step, but she is too immature in this regard.{{more}}

I have spoken to her and asked her not to talk to me as if I am a child in front of our friends and relatives; so much so, it is a running joke that I am her puppy and I roll over every time she makes a command. How can I get her to stop this before I get too tired to deal with this any more?

Love her, but don’t like her ways.

Dear Love her, but don’t like her ways,

I hear you! This is a pet peeve of mine also – when someone is so disrespectful to their partner and can’t control how they address them in public and behind closed doors.

So, my thought is to tell her exactly what you said to me. It’s time for you to sit your girlfriend down and give her the 411.

I know you are going to say that you’ve spoken to her before on numerous occasions and nothing has changed, but this time when you speak to her, you will have to follow through with what you are telling her. I am not saying that you should break up with her, not at all! But I think you may have to start out by showing her that you are standing your ground. For example: if she keeps insulting you in public and you’ve warned her that you will not stick around for this type of treatment, then follow through with your promise and walk away and leave. Believe me when she is left standing there shouting to herself she will get the message.

Now, the trick is to talk about how and what transpired after you both cool down and explain that you have reached your limit with this type of treatment. You will have to keep your cool, but be firm about it. So, I wish you a lot of luck and follow through to get your point across. I am pretty sure she will get the picture rather quickly.

Rosie

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