My mom and dad threw me out. What am I going to do?

Hey Rosie,

I am a 20-year-old female who has no one looking out for her. I feel as though every turn I make, someone has betrayed me or is trying to backstab me. Rosie, my parents broke up three years ago and everything went to hell. My mom doesn’t care where I go and who I am with. She just wants to party and be young, because she said that I stole her youth from her. My dad flipped after my mother left and married a woman who already had children; then he had a son with her and says that is his prince. It’s like he has forgotten about me, and my brother and sister, who are both younger than me. Then his woman didn’t like me, so my dad threw me out of the house and then I went to live with my mom and brother. But that didn’t work out because my brother beat me with a bat.{{more}} So I called the police and pressed charges. My mom got angry and then threw me out. She said I shouldn’t have pressed charges, even though he did hit me with the bat. I then got a roommate, but he tried to attack me, so my friend’s parents are letting me stay with them. They are cool and letting me save my money. I don’t know how long that is going to last because they have a a curfew etc, and I am not with that, Rosie. What am I going to do? I just want to do me, but every time I try, someone is out to get me.

Tired of the games

Dear Tired of the games,

Your story is very deep and my heart does go out to you. You have seen more than most people have at your young age. The problem is that you have very limited options at this time and you need to tread very carefully so that you aren’t out on the street without any support.

Are you working? Are you saving your money to get your own place? What are your plans in terms of school, work and counselling? Ok, the reason for these questions is simple: you have had a string of bad luck lately and it seems that you are not getting any good advice or guidance. For all I know, you may be turning a deaf ear to some good guidance, but I really don’t know you. So, you are going to have to put together a plan now.

If these people are generously letting you stay at their place without asking for money (I hope you are working) you should be saving your money towards finding a safe and reasonable place to stay. You then are going to need some INTENSE counselling because you are going to have to deal with the betrayal and abandonment issues that you have encountered. I also disagree regarding your thoughts that everyone is trying to get you, because this family is obviously trying to help you. Remember it’s not always your flesh and blood that will come to your rescue or will protect you. Saviours come in different forms and maybe your friend’s parents (strict they may be) are the right people for you at the right time.

So, I beg of you to sit down and make a list of your immediate goals and respectfully go about getting them. Your life has thrown you a serious curve ball, but you CAN overcome these obstacles to be the survivor and success that you truly are meant to be. Blessings, my friend.

Rosie

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