What do you do when love isn’t enough?

Hey Rosie,

I must say I have enjoyed reading your advice for as long as I can remember, and I think it’s time for mine.

I am a 23-year-old male who has a big problem. Now, Rosie, I am in a relationship with a young lady who happens to be three years older than me.{{more}}

Rosie, we have been together for two years now. She was all I had at the time. In 2009, she lost a baby for me, and had to spend four days at the hospital. Rosie, I was the only person to spend those days with her.

A week after she was out of hospital, she sent me one of the best texts she ever sent me in a long time. She was to be the love of my life, and I was planning to get married to her soon, but instead of that, she just stopped calling me, and whenever I called her, she ignores my call, and hangs up on me.

Rosie, she’s the best thing that ever happened to me, but now that I am closer to God, I have her as the second best.

She has a three-year-old child who I love to death, more than if the kid is mine. I will do anything for them, but her family does not appreciate her being with me. God knows I try to see what I can do to help her out, but since she started using the Internet to meet people, she changed big time and I just can’t take it any more.

Please just tell me what to do.

Really need help

Dear Really Need Help,

Thank you for reaching out, and I do hope that I can help you. My friend, I think that you have come to the point of major change with your relationship with your lady love. You have been going through a lot of monumental life changes for the past two years, and for a 23-year-old, I have to say your cup runneth over. Someone asked the other day what do you do in a relationship when love isn’t enough? I’m afraid that’s the question you may have to ask yourself today. Is love enough?

Do you know that like life, love can die between a couple as well? Also, like death, we are in denial that the love is gone. Unfortunately, I think this maybe where you are at the moment. However, what do you do to get yourself together in order to move on? Well, for starters, are you happy? If the answer is no, then there is half of your answer . Is she trying to reach out to you and meet you half way? From what this letter states, the answer is no at the moment. This isn’t good either. Finally, outside forces are meddling in your relationship. Under normal circumstances, this can be very difficult, but a relationship with its own stress, and this is already a huge negative working against you.

For a young man in his 20’s, you sure are involved in wearing many hats: a supporter to your girlfriend, a young father who has lost a baby in child birth, stepfather, and you seem to be an all round nice guy as well. But at this stage, you have to love you and see your own selfworth! No more hitting your head against a closed door. Go speak to your pastor and also listen to the word of your Lord. There are other opportunities out there for you, in love, career and life in general. Forgive her, wish her the best and move on. There is nothing else that you can do my brother. When you release the negative feelings in your life, bigger and better gifts come your way.

Be blessed.

Rosie

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