I know he would not do me like this

Hey Rosie,

My baby’s father is tryin to leave me for my sister. I have been with him for two years, and I love him to the end. But Rosie, my sister keeps pushing herself up on him. She is two years older than me and is living with her own man.{{more}}

Rosie, I am so stressed out. I am 19, and trying to better myself. I feel as though it is my sister who is wrong. I don’t think it is my boyfriend. I know he would not do me like this. What should I do, Rosie? I feel like going after my sister and tell her man what’s going on.

Upset

Dear Upset,

What is this I’m reading here? You are 19, you are in a relationship and you also have a child, but you think that your sister wants to steal your man? Really? Before I attempt to answer this question, don’t you think you are surrounded by a lot of drama at the moment? I keep trying to let our young women know that it isn’t necessary to conduct their business at this level.

Secondly, I find it strange that you are placing ALL the blame on your sister and none on your boyfriend? Why is that? I feel as though you have ALWAYS had a problem with your big sister. You said that she’s always “Pushing herself” up on your boyfriend and he never does anything wrong. Let me say this, he must be sending some sort of signal, if what you are saying is correct. You can’t swear 100% for anyone, so you have no idea what he’s doing when your back is turned.

Then, to make matters worse, you want to upset another hornets nest and tell her boyfriend what you think is going on? Before you open the gates of hell, why don’t you stop, take a deep breath, and become an observer in your own situation. You may be a surprised at what you find. As we get older, we have to learn to stop making hasty decisions and come up with a different thought process. Also, may I suggest that you learn to be more of a friend to your sister than an enemy?

There are a lot of lessons life is going to throw your way, and you have to be the best mother and woman you can be. This back and forth brawling type of behaviour will not do. You are capable of much more.

Rosie