Mother-in-law is very nasty to me, should I just cut her off?

Hey Rosie,

My mother-in-law is so nasty to me, I can’t take it! She’s always throwing shade, Rosie. I mean, why is this still happening? I’ve been married to her son for over 12 years and I thinks she needs to get a life. I told my husband if she is disrespectful to me one more time in front of the kids, I will let her know that she is not welcome at our house anymore. Do you think I am wrong to draw the line here?

So Done

Dear So Done,

Now this is very unfortunate for you! To have major mother-in-law issues can be the ULTIMATE nightmare!

I also feel for your hubby. To be stuck in the middle of this emotional mess must give him ulcers! However, I think HE is the one who has to set the tone (or should have done so 12 years ago), about respecting each other.

I think he will first have to chat with his mom and explain how her actions are causing so much havoc in the family – especially with you. Then, you are going to have to meet him halfway in terms of either walking away from her, or limiting your interaction for a while. Hopefully, with some additional neutral mediation, there can be abbreviated and respectful interaction between both of you.

The bottom line is that something will have to change; no one should be made to feel uncomfortable in their own space and respect is always king (both ways). So, it’s imperative that the rules be followed and cooler minds prevail. I wish you all the best, as you try to strike peace within your family.

Rosie

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