Hey Rosie,

I have broken up with my child’s father for over three years now and I have moved on to someone else. In fact, this guy treats me so well, that I have no complaints. We have been together for 18 months; he is good to my son and they get along very well. He has a great sense of humour, my family loves him; he has a steady job and I can see a future for us.

The thing is, my ex likes to send me inbox messages, telling me that he knows that I will never get over him. He is always stalking us, no matter where we go and sometimes he would just come over, pretending that he wants to see his son, which isn’t the truth. I’ve blocked him from my inbox. I told my boyfriend what is going on (he is not happy about it) and I try to have as little as possible to do with him. What can I do?

Creepy

Hello Creepy,

Yes, I’d have to agree that your EX is acting like a creep and a stalker too… this combination isn’t good at all. You would think that at this stage, after three years, he would have moved on by now. Are you sure you aren’t sending him any mixed signals? Because this is strange that he can’t let go already.

I am also happy that you told your boyfriend what is going on as well; there should not be any secrets – especially if you see yourself moving forward into a more serious relationship.

Your EX may have some serious psychological issues and can’t separate fact from fiction. If so, you have to be extra careful, because you never know what he has going on in his head. Always let people know where you are going and with whom. If he becomes aggressive, report him to the authorities and above all continue to make it very clear to him that you are NOT interested. You are going to have to maintain a civil relationship for your son’s sake, but this can all be done with people around.

I truly wish you the very best, as your EX comes to terms with your new reality without him.

Rosie