Hey Rosie!
March 3, 2017

Scared to tell my grandma about my new boyfriend

Dear Rosie,

 
I have been living with my grandmother for all my life; she raised me to be respectful and honest. Now I am 19 years old, have finished all my schooling and made her proud.

There’s this guy that I love and I want to tell my grams about him, but I am scared to do so because I could never talk to her about these kinds of things. He has been interested in me for a very long time and I think he is serious about us. I don’t want to be lying to her, because it never feels right when I do, but I am scared of what she might say or do if I tell her about me dating someone, because she still sees me as her little girl. Please tell me what I should do, Rosie.

Scared

Hello Scared,

I like the fact that you are so concerned about your grandmother’s feelings; that shows that you have a very high moral code in which you conduct your life. Good for you!

I can only imagine how anxious you feel about telling your grandmother about this young man you are having feelings for. But remember she too was once a young woman and also had these same feelings as well. So, what should you do? Maybe you can bring the conversation up casually that you met a guy that you like as a friend and sit back and hear her response. Or you can tell her that there’s a guy that you get along with and you would like her to meet him. Or, if she is really hard core and against you dating, you maybe can ask one of her friends or even a family member you both get along with and respect to broach the subject about you dating with her.

 
The one thing I do know is that you don’t want her to find out from someone outside that you are dating. Oh boy, that would NOT go well at all! She would see that as a huge betrayal of trust. Be prepared to explain to her that you are a responsible young lady whom she has raised and you would represent her values respectfully in this relationship. The initial move is the hardest; once she sees that you are above board, she will slowly come around.

Good luck and I wish you the best in this new phase of young adulthood.

Rosie

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