My boyfriend cheated on me with this girl whom heâs been seeing for a long time, even during my pregnancy. He keeps claiming they are just friends, but I saw other-wise. He keeps texting her and hiding his phone when I enter the room. We argue a lot about it, but he is still saying he doesnât have anything to do with her. I am at my breaking point, where I just want to leave him, but my friends are telling me not to. I have given him five years of my life and he keeps doing the same thing over and over.{{more}} I am talking to this guy I met a couple years before I met him. We talk a lot. He knows my boyfriend and saw him with this other girl. He told me to forgive him and move on, but I canât. I am really hurting, I donât trust him anymore and my love for him is fading away slowly. Our daughter is just one year old and I donât want her growing up calling another man dad, so help me. Please tell me what to do. Should I stay and work things out or do I leave and never look back?
Confused
Dear Confused,
Even though you are in pain due to the betrayal and deception that seems to be going on, I can see that you have a good head on your shoulders. I say this because you are trying to work through all of the shortcomings around you and for that I will give you credit.
Listen, it is better for your daughter to have two happy parents apart, instead of a couple who is always bickering and fighting with each other, so please do not stay in a toxic relationship for your daughter; itâs not benefiting anyone.
I will also suggest you hold off with the other guy as well; you havenât dealt fully with the ending of this current relationship and all of the emotions that come with it. You also have trust issues as well; so why jump into another affair when you need to heal yourself first?
Bottom line: do what you know is right for you. Gain some peace of mind and become the best co-parents you can. The right situation will find you when the time is right. Good luck!
Rosie
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