My hubbyâs brother always flirts with me. Ever since Iâve known him, he has done this. I never took him seriously, because Iâve known him for so long, but the other day he texted me to say he had a question for me and could I call him. Rosie, when I called, he wanted to know if I would like to get away for the weekend, just with him! I thought he was playing with me because I was in shock! When I realized that he wasnât playing, I cursed him out and told him never to speak to me again;{{more}} if he did, I would tell his brother and his mother. Rosie, I canât believe after knowing him for over 11 years he would do that. I want to tell my husband, but Iâm afraid it will start a big brawl in the family. He hasnât approached me again, but he knows Iâm really angry, plus I donât trust him anymore.
Disgusted
Dear Disgusted,
I am disgusted right along with you! From all indications from reading your letter I donât get the impression that you were playing the flirting game with him. I can tell you were genuinely surprised by his very forward and unsolicited advance.
What to do? This one is a hard one. Eventually everyone will see that you are treating him with a cold shoulder and wonder why. Then what do you say? This, I have no answer for â seriously.
My only suggestion is that you should share it with someone maybe in your family or a close friend who can be your confidante. Someone who will know what transpired, in case he tries to flip the script on you. If he approaches you again by text or phone, I would personally save/tape it all to prove that you werenât initiating it. Finally, if he truly crosses the line, tell your hubby immediately, because this is totally unacceptable. I agree with you â keep your distance because I donât trust him either. Good luck!
Rosie
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