Iâm so frustrated with my love life! Iâm going to be 40 soon. Iâm single with a teenaged daughter and a great career. Iâm also an attractive woman who has no problem meeting men. But itâs always the wrong guy! Itâs either the married man, the bad boy, the deep thinker who doesnât want to commit and the list goes on.{{more}} Then, I end up being their therapist, or sometimes I feel like their mother. What am I doing wrong? It never fails and Iâm so done with it! Help me, please. I need to get it together.
Fresh start
Dear Fresh Start,
Itâs you. Not them, but you. Once you take ownership of this fact that you are the common denominator with these different guys, things should start changing in your life.
Stop trying to “fix themâ, change them, or more so, run when you realize that there is something oh so familiar about them when you meet for the first time. Believe me, there is a familiarity to these men in your life and you should be picking up the signals.
I am trying to encourage you to become a true observer in regard to the people you attract. Ask yourself first â is this person worth my time? Then, when you are talking to them, ask them direct questions about what do they want for the future. Do they want a long-term relationship that will eventually lead to marriage? Do you have a wife? I would just lay my cards on the table and start listening to what is said and not said! Look at their body language as well.
At 40, protect yourself and donât waste your time with game players. The minute you decide that you are not in this for the nonsense, things do start to change.
Good luck, my friend; it all lies with you.
Rosie
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