Hey Rosie,

I have an offer to go abroad for work. It’s a two-year contract. I’m in a relationship for the last three years and it’s pretty good. However, my boyfriend doesn’t want me to go. We are in our late 20’s with good jobs, but we aren’t even engaged, though he claims he sees us getting married one day down the road.{{more}} My job is in the financial sector and this is a great opportunity to advance my career and even education. However, I feel guilty about my boyfriend. What should I do?

On The Fence

Hello On The Fence,

Well, personally I would go. I know that it seems that I’m cutting to the point, but I really would. These types of opportunities do not come along too often.

You and your boyfriend aren’t engaged, seemingly have no property between you and definitely no children, right? This is an incredible opportunity for you and for him to support you as well.

Your going away shouldn’t automatically mean that the relationship is over; it just has a bit of a test to go through.

I understand the guilt, but if the shoe were on the other foot, what would he do? Sit down and hash this out; if there’s some hurt feelings, try to work through it; however, remember this is about your personal advancement. If your relationship is meant to be, it will find various ways to work–such as vacations and holidays.

I wish you the best on your new venture. Your boyfriend may come around as well.

Rosie

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