Hey Rosie!
August 14, 2015

My brother is encouraging my bf to cheat on me

Hey Rosie,

I just found out that my brother has been encouraging my boyfriend to cheat on me with other girls when they go out. Rosie, my brother is betraying me like that? My boyfriend and another friend told me the deal after this went down more than once. He told my man that he doesn’t need to be strapped down with me like a ball and chain! Rosie, I’m so hurt! We are all in our mid-20s and my brother is actually 27!{{more}} Old enough to know better, but he just wants to have his clique to hang out and drink and party. What should I do? I really just want to cuss him out and cut him off, but our mother said no, we should hash it out and she could help. Right now I can’t stand him.

What to do?

Hi What to do?

Well, well, well. This is some messy business right here! I can’t believe your own flesh and blood would do this to you like this!

Thank goodness you have an awesome mother. Yes ma’am, she’s right; you should confront him with her and maybe another neutral person and tell him what you heard and how you feel, then wait to hear his response.

I’m not saying that things will end nicely and there would be no hard feelings. But guess what? He will know exactly where he stands with you.

On another side note, he does sound very immature for his age and should be so ashamed of doing this to you (if this is indeed the truth). Look, at the end of the day, family messes up, but we have to give them the benefit of the doubt. I think he’s just in a real selfish and immature stage of his life and he does not care about anyone at this point. Ignore him.

By the way, did your boyfriend take the bait? How’s your relationship now? I give him some credit for telling you also. I wish you luck when talking to him – remember he will ALWAYS be your brother.

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