After 20 years of marriage, my wife says she is leaving me!
After 20 years of marriage my wife says she’s had enough and she’s leaving me. Rosie we’ve had a lot of trouble in the relationship for a while, but I thought we would always work it out. We’ve struggled with the bills, our jobs, the kids and outside influences from our families. But I never thought she would leave. I do agree that I took her for granted sometimes, but I want to save my marriage what can I do?{{more}}
Desperate for her to stay
Dear Desperate for her to stay,
I can hear the hurt and fear in your letter. I know 20 years is a long time to be with someone, only to hear “it’s over.” I can only make suggestions at this point, with no guarantees that it will work.
I know how bills, family and our jobs can get in the way of us having a decent quality of life at home. But we have to push hard to rise above it all.
Have you considered couples counselling for your relationship issues? Also, please seek out financial counselling as well; this is so very necessary. Also, a word of advice :please keep your extended family out of your business. After being together for so long this should not even be an issue; remember you have your own unit to protect and take care of.
You are also going to have to dig deep and figure out what major changes you are going to need to do going forward and, quite frankly, so should she.
The bottom line is that BOTH of you will need to be on the same page about saving this marriage. One person fighting will NOT work. Also, it’s a hard uphill battle, but once some earnest work is put in, you may very well come out at the other end in a much stronger and more united position.
I really do wish you both the best; good luck!
Rosie
Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or
P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St Vincent & the Grenadines
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