Our wedding plans becoming big headache

Dear Rosie,

I have a quick question, I am getting married in six months and my fiancé and I are having a heck of a time with the seating chart. You might say why is this a big deal? The problem is some of my family and those from his side really dislike one another and, worse than that, we have heard that one of his cousins plans to bring my fiancé’s ex to the wedding!{{more}}

Rosie, I told him I wanted to un-invite this cousin because I found this to be disrespectful! What can I do? Thank goodness both mothers get along and find this to be just out of control. What would you do? We are having 275 guests and this stress is getting to be too much.

Runaway Bride

Dear Runaway Bride,

Well, this one is a major dilemma! What would I do? Well, seeing my wedding was very, very small and we had fewer than 10 people I am unable to discuss seating charts and fussy relatives. But what I DO know is that if you are causing me anxiety, I would have to cross you off my list. Yes, I have a low tolerance for nonsense like this. I will tell you why.

When you are tying the knot it should be a happy time, one that you want to share with people who genuinely care for you and want to wish you only the best on your new steps in life together as a couple. So, as you and your hubby-to-be plan these nuptials together, quickly get on the same page and have a united front when dealing with people’s unrealistic and sometimes intrusive request and actions. You should both ask the cousin point blank if he/she is really bringing the ex to the wedding. If the answer is truly yes, you should both tell him/her that this is unacceptable and no, this can’t happen. If he/she gives you an attitude, then he/she can stay away too; you simply you don’t need the drama.

Finally, the seating chart. Well, sad to say, this happens often in weddings and with 275 guests, I am sure you can mix up the family among mutual friends who have no history with these fussy relatives. At the end of the day, this wedding is about the launching of your marriage and the building of your relationship as a couple going forward. It’s truly not about a handful of trifling people who are selfishly thinking about themselves.

That is just my little two cents on this matter; I really do wish you and your fiancé nothing but the very best on your upcoming nuptials.

Rosie

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