Move on – chasing behind him is stroking his ego!
I am a beautiful and ambitious young lady, who has some serious depression problems created by the one I love desperately. We were together for awhile; he then disrespected me and that hurt my heart and I decided to break up with him.
But Rosie, the level of love I have for him wouldnât allow me to stay mad for long. When we broke up, he acted like it was nothing.{{more}} He makes me feel like I am in the relationship all alone. He is not romantic at all. I donât know if heâs ignorant about how to treat a woman or if he knows what heâs doing me. When I talk to him about, it he would say he will be a better boyfriend. I am here thinking for us to get back together. I wish he could be a man and just tell me heâs sorry for everything and that he loves me. That will really make things better, but I guess heâs not going to do that. I really donât know what to do. Should I try harder or just move on?
Depressed
Dear Depressed,
Straight to the point – MOVE ON! Listen, why are you selling yourself short? Why are you hoping for him to change and show you love? All of this energy when he doesnât even deserve a second glance from you? This situation is really ALL ABOUT YOU, not him! Your chasing behind him is stroking his ego and thatâs an epic waste of time!
My girl, you canât force someone to treat or love you the way you deserve. They must want to be with you and treat you with respect. I am trying to let you know that as a beautiful and ambitious young lady (your words) you are going to have to remind yourself that you are beautifully and wonderfully made. You will also have to step forward in faith knowing that you are going to evolve into an even more incredible person. So, with this faith, comes the knowledge that this toxic relationship you are in is only temporary and also a learning lesson for any future suitors (spotting those negative signs a mile away), so treat this lesson accordingly.
If it seems as though I am being tough, I am not. I am letting you know that you CAN survive this and thrive too. You have to want to move on. You are going to have to want more and better for yourself. You are going to have to realize that you have been selling yourself short. So, all in all, you are going to have to go to see someone to talk to, vent, cry and gain a new perspective. I know you can do this; you have to believe it too. So, YES, PLEASE MOVE ON you deserve only the very best.
Rosie
Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152,
Kingstown, St Vincent & the Grenadines.
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