Hey Rosie!
June 7, 2013

My baby daddy is saying the child is not his

Hey Rosie:

I met this guy for the first time through a friend, since high school, and I hadn’t seen him for two years, when he sent a friend request for me on Facebook.

Ever since that, we have become close and I recently broke up with my ex. We started dating, and after two months, I got pregnant for him. He was happy at first, then he just turned on me.{{more}} He would stress me out; he wouldn’t come visit me or check up on the pregnancy, but I was still with him. So, after the baby was born, I thought it would change him, since he wanted a son.

But things have got worse; his ex keeps popping up, saying all sorts of things to me, that have me stressing. People are telling me that he is denying our child and our relationship and when I confront him, he’ll say nobody wants us together and if I would believe that “he say she say” nonsense.

So, I didn’t believe, because I have mad love for him and I trusted him, until one day, we got into a huge argument about me still being with my ex. While we were arguing, he watched me in my face and said the child isn’t his and he and I are not in a relationship.

Rosie, it hurt me so badly that l cried just about every day. My baby daddy believes lies on the street and what people were telling me was true, but I refused to believe it. He said I cheated on him when we were together, but that makes me feel so low, because I was faithful to him the whole relationship.

It really hurt because I love him even though we are not together. I really hate going through all this pain for nothing and I got to go through this paternity testing for nothing, cuz I know and God knows…

Don’t Know What To do

Dear Don’t know what to do,

Dry your tears. Yes, ma’am, dry them; you are in the middle of a powerful life lesson and tears make things too blurry.

You made a poor judgement call in trusting this “boy” – yes he’s a “boy,” because a mature young man wouldn’t handle his business in this childish manner.

Take the paternity test; prove to him that he is the father. Then, take him to court for child support, because your baby deserves AT LEAST that. It looks as though it would take a lot of growing up on his part to be a role model – so don’t hold your breath.

Your lesson: you are a capable young woman; you are and will continue to be an incredible mother. Set your standards for yourself and your child to the very highest. Hold your head up and start setting your goals and become the success you were destined to be.

Forget the negative chit- chat (I know it’s painful now, but that will fade away); do not allow men in your life who only want to have sex with you … they are offering you dregs, not the full package that you deserve.

Finally, have faith and walk in faith. You only deserve the very best. He is not that. Be strong, my girl.


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