Hi Rosie,
Thank you for all your help over the years. I just have a quick question regarding my boyfriend; I donât love him anymore and I want to call it quits. However, we are in grad school together and plan to move to another state together to start our careers and lives. Our families get along and we have been going out for over five years now.{{more}} I just have grown out of love with him and canât see me being with him for the rest of my life. Donât get me wrong, I care for him a lot and I see him more like a brother than lover. Oh, also for the record, there isnât anyone else; I just donât want to âsettleâ at 26. Thanks again for your advice.
Itâs over for me
Hello itâs over for me,
A Happy New Year to you. I can see you are making resolutions to start with a clean slate and in your case I canât say that I blame you. No one should ever âsettleâ for a situation.
Good for you that you are honest about your feelings. By doing this, you are not leading this young man on and you are also giving both of you a chance to start afresh without the baggage of someone cheating due to unhappiness. Personally, I wish more people would do what you are doing, which is making a clean break and allowing each other the opportunity to find that someone special.
Never settle, no matter if you think you have no way out; there is ALWAYS a way. To stay with someone who doesnât make you happy, who does not complement your personality, who abuses you, in whom youâve lost interest in that is just an injustice to your spirit. So, I wish you well when you do speak to him; be very honest, yet kind when explaining where you are now; hopefully he will understand and appreciate you for it in the long run.
Rosie
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