Is my child an addict (conclusion)

How Can You Help Your Addicted Child?

A big part of parents of drug addicts coping skills is learning the most useful ways to help their child. The following are some of the tips you can keep in mind if you’re the parent of an addict:

Don’t be Afraid to Confront Your Child

Dealing with a drug addict can be scary and unpredictable, but having good communication and being willing to confront your child about their drug use directly can be helpful. This doesn’t mean that you’re aggressive or confront them in a way that’s going to lead to an argument or sense of defensiveness.

Instead, focus on listening, asking questions and trying to have as productive a conversation as possible.

Focus on positivity

Your child, whether they’re a teen or adult, doesn’t want to feel judged or hopeless. As a parent, you can focus on framing the discussion of addiction treatment within the concept of the positives. For example, letting your child know they can be successful in their recovery.

Make sure you’re always consistent and that you outline clear expectations and boundaries. When you are the parent of a drug addict, no matter how they are, there are some key things to keep in mind. The first is that you should be clear with expectations. This can mean highlighting cause and effect scenarios so that your child understands what you won’t tolerate. You need to stick with the things you say, no matter how difficult. If you’re not consistent, it’s going to be incredibly difficult for your message to resonate. Also important are setting boundaries, and consequences if those boundaries are crossed. Tough love is often one of the best ways to deal with a child who is addicted to drugs.

Eliminate your own enabling behaviours.

You love your child, and you want to protect them, and it’s that natural tendency that can lead to enabling. Enabling means that you’re the one protecting your child from the consequences of their actions, or that you’re shouldering the burden of their actions. You might blame yourself, make excuses for your child, or try to make them more comfortable in the short-term, rather than focusing on long-term recovery.

With these tips in mind, you can also consider arranging an intervention.

Interventions can be a useful way to help motivate addicts to seek treatment.

Parents Take Care of Yourselves

It’s very easy to become consumed by your child’s drug addiction. You may be constantly worried about them or trying to find ways to help them, and then your health and well-being suffer as a result. You absolutely have to come to a point where your personal needs are a priority, no matter how hard it is.

Of course, taking care of yourself doesn’t mean living in denial. For parents of drug addicts, coping often means pretending it’s not an issue, or that it’s not happening. That’s bad for you, and it’s bad for your child and the rest of your family. When dealing with addiction you have to eliminate denial, and you have to empower yourself with knowledge.

At the same time, once you’ve recognized that you’ve done what you can for your child, particularly an adult child, you may have to take a step back from the relationship to take care of yourself. It can be incredibly helpful for parents of drug addicts coping with these problems to go to therapy on their own. This can help you learn ways to better communicate with your addict child, and how to alleviate some of the common feelings that can come along with having an addict child, such as guilt or intense sorrow.

Once you’ve done the steps above you should also make it a priority to grasp the fact that no matter what you do, in this situation you are not the hero, and you may not be able to rescue your child, because you can’t provide help to someone who isn’t willing to accept it.