Dr Jozelle Miller
October 6, 2020
Tips on becoming unstuck in life

Having identified that you are stuck in your life; the next question is usually, how do I become unstuck? I would like to suggest the following for consideration: 1. Let go of the past.

Listen to the stories in your head. Are you thinking about events that happened in the past? Are you unable to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made? Are you blaming yourself or others for things that did not turn out the way you hoped? Ask yourself why you are stuck on these memories, and what you can do to live with them, accept them, and move forward. You can’t undo the past, but you can choose to find peace. Forgiving yourself or others is a way to let go and move on. It is also important that you pay close attention to those persons in your network who make it their business to remind you of your past. These persons should be avoided at all cost, as they are tying you to your past rather than allowing you to move towards your future.

2. Change your perspective.

Once you release the grip of the past, you will see your reality in new ways and feel freer to change your attitude. To gain a new perspective, meditate or spend time alone and listen to your inner voice. If you can, travel or take a break from your daily routine to clear your mind and get distance from your current situation. Open yourself up to new people and ideas, and introduce regular physical activity into your routine. All of these changes will help you gain a new perspective on the future and what is possible. 3. Start with small changes.

Change stimulates different parts of the brain that improve creativity and clarity of mind. You can start small by changing your daily routines, moving things in your house, or making new friends. Every choice matters. You might be tempted to skip the little things because they don’t always seem important in the moment. But after a while, an accumulation of small changes will help you accomplish your goals, and you will start feeling unstuck. Make a change and maintain it for a consistent 21 days, this will guarantee the formation of a new habit. New positive habits can change your life.

4. Explore your purpose.

Your life purpose is not just your job, your responsibilities, or your goals—it’s what makes you feel alive. These are the things you are passionate about and will fight for. Examples of a life purpose could be: o Helping people overcome the sadness of being ill.

o Helping others reach their full potential.

o Growing as a human

being; becoming more kind, being more at peace Do not shy away from seeking a new purpose for your life, if the path that you are on no longer inspires you. Or, if you feel like you haven’t had a purpose, it is never too late to define it. Ask yourself the following questions as you consider your life purpose: ? What makes me happy?

? What were my favorite things to do in the past?

? What are my favorite things to do now?

? When do I enjoy myself so much or become so committed to something that I lose track of time?

? Who inspires me the most, and why?

? What makes me feel good about myself?

? What am I good at?

5. Believe in yourself.

Trust that you can reach your expectations and get out of your comfort zone. Make a list of your strengths and positive traits, and remember that you are very capable. Many people sabotage their own progress— consciously or unconsciously— as a result of deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs.

Hope these help you to get out of your ‘rut’. Just know that you have to ultimately be the change that you want to see in yourself and in this world.