Dr Jozelle Miller
July 16, 2019
Are you settling in your life?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson


How many times have you told yourself that you can’t do something? And how many times have you allowed that insecure negative voice inside you to shy away from something you really wanted and simply settle? Starting today, don’t let that voice control your life any longer; silence it with the power of confidence and faith in yourself. Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from striving for more; if anything, you can learn from the lessons present in failure, and use that as motivation to launch you to the next step in life. Change is painful, but choosing to settle because you don’t think you have what it takes to succeed is even more excruciating.


Relationships that only bring you down don’t serve a place in your life any longer. It might seem hard at first to cut ties with people you have known a long time, but you can’t go on allowing these relationships to dampen your enthusiasm for life. You need to surround yourself with people who have a similar, go-getter attitude about life; don’t let people who spew negativity settle into your life. They will only take you in the wrong direction, away from your hopes and dreams. Don’t hesitate to walk away from people that don’t allow you to blossom into your best self.


This one sadly fits the majority of people in the workforce today. A job shouldn’t just be a means to an end; it should fulfill, inspire, and challenge you. It should make you feel like you have a purpose in life, adding value to it. It might seem scary or impossible, but you CAN leave a job that makes you miserable.

Don’t settle for one you hate just because it pays the bills; you can do anything your heart desires, it just takes a lot of hard work and dedication. However, all the effort will pay off in the end, because you will finally have a job that doesn’t even feel like work.


Lots of people stay shackled to one place in life, mostly out of fear. They fear running out of money, leaving the place they’ve lived for years behind, making new friends, etc. However, wouldn’t it feel worse to settle in a place you don’t belong than take your chances and see what a new place can offer you? Maybe a totally different country would suit you better; the point is, this life is short, and we shouldn’t spend it fearing outcomes. We should use our time wisely and savor the journey, because our experiences will make us better people.
To grow as a person, you need to follow your heart and try new things; otherwise, life becomes dull and mundane, but it doesn’t have to be that way.


If you haven’t realized it by now, everyone is living life according to the lens through which they see it. Everyone’s perspective and opinions differ, because everyone sees life through their own mind. For this reason, you should never accept someone else’s standards for how you should live. Those ideals might work for that person, but not for you. Don’t allow others to tell you how you should live your life; only you can decide that for yourself. You write the script, and you get to act it out based on your viewpoint and ideas. Only you can write your story, so don’t let other people do it for you.