According to the Cambridge English dictionary, to âstart overâ means to begin to do something again, sometimes in a different way. It is deciding to abandon the first draft of something and starting from scratch. It is based on the premise that allows old expectations to be forgotten and you start afresh. Sounds simple and easy, doesnât it? But is it really?
Throughout our lives we can find ourselves in situations or moments that force us to question our path. It might be that a long-term relationship has ended, that your kids have grown and left the nest, or that you simply have to find your way in life again. Thatâs when questions start hitting you: What should I do? How do I start over? What steps should I take? It is crucial, at this decision making stage, that you remain as positive as possible. That you ward off those seeds of doubt and disappointment that can so easily take root in your mind, especially as you begin to overcome any setback or failure. Always remember that negativity harms you and keeps you from fully living your life.
Each day is a gift given to you by life itself. Each day is a new beginning, a new chance and a new opportunity for you to create something better, something new. To offer more value to the world around you, and to reveal more of yourself to those you love. Each day is a new life; each moment is a precious gift. So, make the best of each day. Make the best of each moment.
Here are some tips you can do to start all over and rebuild your life from scratch:
1. Be patient:
Starting all over and rebuilding your life from scratch is not an easy thing to do. It requires a lot of inner strength, courage, self-love, resilience, faith, and confidence. And since most of these things take the time to be developed, you need to learn to be patient and gentle with yourself. And you need to treat yourself with love, compassion, and understanding. So, make sure you do just that.
2. You are not a finished product:
Acknowledge the fact that you are not a finished product and that life is a continuous process of becoming. You go through life to find yourself, to become yourself. Through every little thing you do, through every word you say and through every action you take, you are meant to discover more and more about yourself: your inner journey, your life path and about the purpose and meaning of your own life.
3. Embrace change:
Life is constantly changing, constantly evolving and constantly renewing itself. And since life is what flows through all of us, we ourselves need to constantly embrace change, and we need to constantly renew ourselves in order for life to flow through us, and in order for us to feel fully alive once more.
4. Accept what is:
Surrender to what is. And no matter how hard and difficult it might be, accept the situation you are in as if you have chosen it. Embrace your current reality. Make peace with the present moment and you will be at peace all throughout your journey.
5. Immerse yourself deeply into the NOW:
Take deep cleansing breaths throughout the day. Pay close attention to your breathing and with each breath you take, immerse yourself even more deeply into the present moment.
6. Engage in conversations with the Source of all things:
Engage in vulnerable, humble, honest and meaningful conversations with the Source of all things. Ask God, the Source of all things, to guide you, to help you and to assist you. And at the end of each conversation, make sure you say an honest “thank youâ for all the wonderful and precious gifts life will continue to send your way.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.â ~ Philippians 4:6
To be continued next week
Dr Jozelle Miller
The VALEO Experience