My friend wants to take her mother’s birth control pills
Hey Rosie,
I am a teenager. My good friend has been seeing this guy and they like each other a lot. Theyâve told each other âI love youâ.
Sheâs known him for almost six years. Theyâve been talking about having sex and seeing if she is ready, because she has been hesitant; she wants to, but she knows itâs not right.{{more}} So she decided to say yes, but she wants to be sure sheâs protected and wants to take birth control pills, but doesnât want to ask her mom, because she doesnât want her to know. She didnât know how to get them, so she took her momâs, because she hasnât been or isnât using them and my friend is pretty confident she wouldnât know that theyâre gone. She hasnât taken them yet, but she is debating to.
She sometimes asks me for help on what her decision should be, but I donât know what to tell her. I donât want to tell her to not do it, because then it might push her to the side that she will do it; so I tell her it is her decision. What can I tell her? She believes sheâs ready. Is she just blinded by the fact that she might actually be in love with him?
What to do
Dear What to do?
I am very touched about your concern for your friend. Not many people are this fortunate in life.
Having said that, I am put in a very delicate position in terms of birth control and teenage sex, but here goes:
Straight up, your friend, or any teenager, shouldnât be even considering sex or engaging in it willingly at this point. It can wreck you and totally push you off course completely.
Thereâs teenage pregnancy, there are diseases and of course HIV or AIDS. Need I say more?
Your friend isnât thinking straight.
She is caught up in the whole puppy love of wanting to prove herself to her boyfriend; even though she has major doubts herself, sheâs bowing to the pressure. So, we have to get her an adult that she can trust; maybe a teacher, a guider, someone from church? She needs to speak to someone as soon as possible!
Regarding the issue of the birth control, she needs to stop taking her motherâs pills, this is ridiculous. Why would she do that? Taking any kind of medication that is not intended for you is dangerous, plain and simple.
Look, if this becomes too much for you, I would suggest that you confide in an adult yourself. Maybe they can assist you in helping your friend out of this major muddle, before it becomes a real problem.
Bottom line is to reach out for help; you are too young for all this drama. All the best.
Rosie
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