Should I end my six year relationship for this new guy?

Hey Rosie,

I am a 24-year-old female who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years. My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, but there is one problem.{{more}}

I met this guy and we have been talking for 5 months now, and everytime we talk to each other, I get to like him more. I love my boyfriend, but I am begining to love my friend more. I don’t want to end my present relationship with my boyfriend. On the other hand, my friend is sending for me. What should I do? I need your advice.

Confused

Dear Confused,

You are definitely confused. You have been in a committed relationship for 6 years since you were 18-years-old and now you maybe outgrowing your current relationship. Let me go back to what I always say to young people when they write me about settling down as a teenager; I normally say not to!

You are only just beginning your life and I encourage all of you to go out in groups, date (not have sex) different people, learn what you like and don’t like about the opposite sex. Instead of being caught up in a long term relationship at such a young age. Most of the time the relationship doesn’t work out.

So I’m back to you. The really confusing thing to me is that you said you have a “friend” who you’ve been talking to for 5 months and then you end it with he’s “sending for you” as in come live with me? What? How do you explain this little factoid to your current boyfriend?

This is like a soap opera called the Bold and the Brazen to me. Look, in my opinion you shouldn’t be with either at the moment because as you said, you are confused; confused about your feelings for your present boyfriend and then confused because you are complicating this drama by flirting with another man who is “sending for you”. He’s not sending for you to be his “friend”, that’s for sure!

How about being by yourself for a while? Exploring what it is that you want in YOUR life and then making a plan to achieve it? Have you finished your education, maybe in the career that you want or there are other personal goals? Look into that, ask yourself if this love triangle makes you complete and if not, how do you safely end it?

The answers are within you, really they are. Your safety, happiness and peace of mind are utmost. Also seek some counseling for guidance going forward. I wish you the best, and look before you travel, please.

Rosie

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