Thanks for the advice you give to us. I have a problem that I need your help with. I have been with my boyfriend for four years.
Lately I realize that he’s acting strange, he hardly wants to be around me. I don’t live with him. Whenever I am by him he leaves and when he is ready to go to work he comes home. The only time he wants to kiss and touch me is when he wants to have sex. I asked him if he is tried of me and he says no, but I do believe he is. I really love him and I would do anything for him and he knows that. I’ve been asking around if there is any other girl, but there is none that I know of.
I really don’t want to leave him, because I know this will really stress me out and I might end up losing my work.
Don’t know what to do
Dear Don’t know what to do,
I am sorry to hear about your situation. It seems as though you and your boyfriend of four years have come to a major crossroads in the relationship. You know by now I like to have you come up with your own decisions, because I think you already know the answer to what you should do.
Here are my questions to you: Are you totally happy with this man? Do you feel like a second or third runne- up in his life? Are you staying with him because you are afraid to let go or maybe you have a self esteem problem? I am asking you these questions because I want you to take a good, long and hard look at yourself before you make your decision.
Whenever a woman feels that she is only being used for sex, more than likely SHE IS.
When a woman feels that her man has “checked out” from the relationship, again she may be very right. Don’t do this to yourself. You have heard me say that we women are worth more than what we get and should demand only the very best in the way that we are treated. Do not settle for less. After examining your own life, you may realize that this situation is not worth it and it is time to part ways.
He doesn’t sound like a mean man. He just sounds like a man who has emotionally moved on. After dealing with your own pain and thinking about your next move, you then should approach him about your thoughts and possible actions. It may go one of two ways: He may agree and want to call it quits as well. Or he may be surprised that it is bothering you this much and put some effort into working it out. Either way, do not try to “RAM” a square peg into a round hole. It will not work. Just let it unfold naturally.
I am wishing you strength, courage and faith. For I know that there are many new and exciting experiences in your future, if you have faith.
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