Cheating ex stopping me from seeing our child

Hey Rosie,

I am having some issues with my child’s mother. She wouldn’t let me see her when I ask. My daughter is two and a half years old and growing up fast without me. I give her at least two weeks notice and I also make sure that she has money every month for my child, but it is never enough. I’ve talked to her mother and sister and they also agree that she’s being unreasonable. {{more}}She was the one that cheated on me (more than once) and I had enough, so I left. Finally, I am in a pretty stable relationship and I think this makes her mad, because she is alone and she might want me back. I don’t want to go back to that life, Rosie. I just want to be a good father to my child. What should I do?

Fed Up

Hello Fed Up,

I applaud you for trying to work with your child’s mother; it seems as if there are a lot of other underlying issues, but you are right, you have to be focused on your daughter’s well-being.

I would try mediation – maybe via the church or someone whom you both respect in your community to see what type of written agreement you both can come up with in terms of visitation, child support and holidays etc. You may want to discuss her education, travel and other areas that come up with co-parenting.

However, if this fails, you will need to seek legal help. It is sad when it comes to that, but in this case it may become very necessary. Both of you will have to become mature very quickly. Your daughter will very shortly become aware of the major tension between you and this is not healthy for her at all. I hope that this resolves itself soon, because your daughter is the most important person in this dynamic.

Good luck,

Rosie

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