I hate that my boyfriend hides his phone and makes silly arguments!
I need your help. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past six years. We are both young, in our early 20s, and we have a child together. He works and Iâm currently looking for a job. Everything was going well until he started hiding his phone and stopped interacting with me like he used to. Rosie, Iâve been doing everything he asks me to, but he keeps making silly arguments with me; we constantly argue all the time and I hate it.{{more}}
We hardly see each other, because of where he works off mainland, but when heâs about to come home, even if heâs mad at me and we donât speak, he talks back to me nicely; I think mostly probably he misses me or just because of the sex he wants when heâs around; am I being used?
Moreover, I know your phone is a private thing, but if two people love each other and are in a relationship, why hide your phone? Iâve been such a good girl to him; I do everything he asks me to; I take care of our kid; I donât cheat on him; I donât go out; I am at the point where I donât even ask him for money; so where did I go wrong?
He puts other girlsâ pictures up; he disrespects me at times; and every time I confront him, itâs always his friends and thereâs nothing and he loves me. I donât even trust him anymore, but I love him and I donât want to lose him. I wish we could build together, but I donât know whatâs going on anymore.
Lost Hope.
Hello Lost Hope,
Well, I think you are the one who has to decide if you want to be subjected to this type of behaviour or not. The ball is truly in your court.
Even though on paper it looks like you guys are a unit, your actions are stating otherwise. Are you happy? Do you think you are compromising yourself in this relationship? Do you want more, such as respect, the feeling of being in a working partnership and the feeling that you BOTH are committed to working on a long-term goal together? These are some of the serious questions you really have to ask yourself.
Your boyfriend could be taking you for granted or maybe he too could be questioning how he feels in this relationship. I think you should both sit down and lay the cards honestly on the table; listen carefully to what each other has to say and then make your own decisions as to where you go from there.
I know there is a child involved and you can still be great parents, but you have to make sure that this is a relationship worth saving. Setting ground rules and expectations as to how you are treated and where you are going are also very important as well.
Good luck, my friend; your decision making power lies within you.
Rosie
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