Hey Rosie,

I am an 18-year-old who is in some deep mess. I’ve been in a relationship for over three years now, but recently I found out that my boyfriend is cheating. I confronted him and he decides to leave, even without me telling him it’s over. Now, Rosie, I think I’m pregnant; even without doing a test, I know that I am, and I’m afraid I would be raising a baby by myself. I loved him so much and even though he cheated, I still love him and I am even willing to forgive him and give him another chance, just to make things right for our baby. I never planned on having a baby and raising one by myself. I feel like I messed up big time, although I was being faithful all along.{{more}}

I love this guy so much, and we both had planned on having a baby, and now that this has happened, he’s not going to be around for his baby. I’m not working to support myself and the baby. I seriously don’t know what to do.

Should I beg this guy to be back with me? Or should I just let go and raise this child alone?

Please help, God bless you.

Faithful

I am going to be spiritual with you for a moment. Be still and know that he is your God. Simply put, I see you are a believer and I strongly am in favour of asking God for direction and help.

To be 18, pregnant and alone is not fun. In fact, it is downright scary! How’s your relationship with your parents and other family members? You are definitely going to need the support. I can imagine that you are so scared to confide in them, but at this point, they are going to be your major source of help.

Now, on to the boyfriend. It is so sad that you are caught up in this drama of having a baby with a guy who isn’t ready or even mentally mature to support you and his child that is on the way. I can say that you should have been careful — but I will not. I can say that trusting a boy who has no job, or any prospects of stepping up to help carry the burden of a baby at this time — well I will not go there either. So, let’s focus on you. At the end of the day, you can only rely on you. So, what to do? You need to go to a doctor to confirm the pregnancy. You need sound medical advice; you also need to go to a counsellor in whom you can confide.

Then, you need to grab a hold of your Boo and have a straight talk with him about the future of this baby. Unfortunately, there is no turning the hands back on this clock. This child deserves to have both parents in his/her life and ones who also have his/her best interest at heart. So, to review: Pray – Tell your family – Go to the Doctor – Get some counselling and finally work out your next steps with your boyfriend for the future (especially the baby’s).

Side note: your life isn’t over; you will be able to continue your education, carry yourself with pride, work and have a stable relationship. You have just entered a lifelong lesson that will require you to mature very quickly. I wish you nothing but the very best.

Rosie

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Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.