‘I am obsessed with him’

Hey Rosie,

I read your articles every week and they are very inspirational and interesting to me, so my intuition is always to try it, to seek advice.

Rosie, I am a seventeen year old girl who is strongly in love with someone who doesn’t pay that amount of attention to me. I am always texting this person on his phone and also chatting to him on the Internet, but he doesn’t reply to me.{{more}} Sometimes, the only thing he’ll ask me is when he’s getting to meet me in person. He sees me every day when I am in town, but not to stand and hold a conversation.

Rosie, I really love him. I am going to say I am obsessed with him. Whenever I commit myself not to talk to him, I can’t help myself. He’s attractive, but sometimes he’s very stubborn. He likes to ignore me a lot, and I’m seeing that. It’s just something about him. I just can’t get over him. This is my first time talking to a guy, and I’m also a virgin, which he knows, as I told him.

So I am seeking your advice because I know you relate well to these things and I have no one else to share my story with.

Love One

Dear Love One,

Through all of the hurt and disappointment that you are experiencing with this “relationship”, I already see that you have part of the answer to your problem. Which is simply that you are obsessed with this young man. My question is why?

Why are you doing this to yourself? You are giving ALL this attention to this guy and he isn’t interested. I am sorry to put it to you like this, but you have to see this for what it is. You call him, text him, IM him, you try to get his attention when you see him in person and all of this to no avail. He is very flattered by your attention, but he is not meeting you halfway, not even quarter of the way.

Stop pursing this situation with this young man. In fact, stop and ask yourself what is it about him that makes you want to be with him so badly? I also have to ask, what are your other interests? Are you into sports, meeting other people, hanging out with your friends (both boys and girls)? You may have some issues with self esteem also, which makes you feel you need the attention of someone else in order to feel loved. You have to take a hard long look at yourself. You are almost a young adult and you have to start putting yourself first. If you don’t embrace and love yourself, no one will. Do not become a victim in this life looking for love and attention in the wrong places…like a man who has no interest in you. Get your education. See the world. Contribute in a positive way to your community and let the world see what really makes you the blessing that you really are. Stop this behavior and focus on building your self-esteem.

Rosie

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