Mixed signals

Hey Rosie,

I must first say that I love your articles and read them every week.

I am a confused teenager who needs advice. I have been with my boyfriend, who is 2 years older than me, for one year and a half now. He tells me that he loves me and wouldn’t do anything to hurt me, but still sometimes he really makes me wonder. How can someone who says they love you over and over try liming and being with your best friend?{{more}}

I also know there are more that I don’t know about. I really need your advice about this one, Rosie, because I gave that boy my heart and everything and it just confuses me sometimes.

Confused

Dear Confused,

Thank you for being a weekly reader. It is greatly appreciated. Now you are having some problems with your boyfriend? He’s giving you mixed signals? I can fully understand that you feel hurt and betrayed when someone you care for says one thing and does something else.

What I find kind of grimy is that he is trying to hang out with your best friend and possibly do more with her? Is he crazy? I’m sorry, how do you know this? I’m hoping your girlfriend told you and not that you found out in a roundabout manner. Nonetheless, I am really not feeling your young man if this is the truth. You are worth so much more than this.

So we come to the point where Rosie gives the regular speech about being too young to be in a committed relationship. Yes, I know, I can see some rolling of the eyes, but it is the truth. From your letter you are very bright and articulate. I’m sure that you are cute, too, (smile). You do not have to settle down this early as if you are headed for marriage. Go out with your friends. Talk to other boys. Go out in groups (safety in numbers). Get to learn what your likes and dislikes are with boys. Don’t have sex. Just learn about the opposite sex.

You are a smart girl. Decide if you deserve this kind of treatment. I think you already know that you don’t. Enjoy your life, embrace your education and learn from the bumps in the road….In the future you will see them coming and drive around them. Never settle for less than the very best.

Rosie

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